Be Yourself

Self-Relationship Training®

Cultivating a Stronger Connection with Yourself

Discover a structured path to deepen your relationship with yourself through this eight-module Self-Relationship Training programme. Designed to guide you through the complexities of your inner world, the programme invites participants to explore patterns of self-treatment and learn ways to foster a more compassionate, supportive, and affirming relationship with themselves.

Throughout the programme, you’ll have opportunities to reflect on patterns of self-dislike, identify potential sources of self-sabotage, and consider the emotional effects these patterns may have on your well-being. Engaging with the exercises and teachings can encourage greater awareness of how thoughts, beliefs, and learned responses influence your daily experience. By exploring these insights, participants often find ways to notice early signs of difficult emotions, trace them to their roots, and experiment with practices that promote gentleness, clarity, and self-understanding.

Each module blends engaging lectures with reflective exercises and immersive activities, all designed to be completed at your own pace. This flexible, self-directed structure supports meaningful personal exploration and allows participants to integrate insights in ways that feel authentic, sustainable, and relevant to their lives.

The programme includes a comprehensive workbook, offering structured reflection prompts, practical exercises, and guidance to support participants throughout their journey.

At the end of the programme, there is the option to book an individual online support session. This provides a space to explore experiences in more depth, address any challenges, and receive personalised guidance for integrating self-understanding into everyday life.

Personal Investment:

  • £495 for the complete eight-module course

  • £150 for the optional individual online support session

  • Discover the concept of the self-relationship and explore how the way you relate to yourself can influence your thoughts, emotions, and behaviours. This module lays the groundwork for personal reflection and self-understanding, offering opportunities to consider how your inner relationship shapes everyday experiences.

  • Learn to observe your inner world with curiosity. This module invites you to notice thoughts, emotions, and bodily sensations as fluid processes, helping you recognise patterns and triggers. Engaging with these practices can support greater clarity and encourage a thoughtful, compassionate response to yourself.

  • Explore patterns of self-criticism, self-sabotage, and emotional responses that may influence your wellbeing. This module offers tools to reflect on these cycles, consider their effects, and explore approaches for engaging with yourself in a more compassionate and balanced way.

  • Examine the spectrum of self-attack, from subtle self-dislike to more intense self-criticism. Participants are guided to recognise these patterns, understand their potential effects, and experiment with ways to cultivate a kinder, more supportive inner dialogue.

  • Explore how self-monitoring can become overly critical or controlling. This module encourages reflection on these tendencies and offers strategies for approaching yourself with gentleness, fostering balanced personal growth and healthier habits.

  • Discover how self-neglect can emerge from a strained relationship with yourself, affecting attention to your physical, emotional, and psychological needs. Participants are invited to reflect on self-ignoring behaviours and experiment with ways to prioritise self-care and nurture a more supportive inner relationship.

  • Examine ‘hostile freedom’—when the pursuit of independence or avoidance of connection leads to emotional distance. This module invites reflection on self-imposed separation, its potential impact on wellbeing and relationships, and opportunities to balance autonomy with meaningful connection.

  • Building on earlier modules, this session focuses on cultivating a nurturing and supportive relationship with yourself. Participants are encouraged to explore practices that foster self-compassion, self-connection, and appreciation for their unique qualities.

  • After the programme, an optional online session is available to reflect on experiences, discuss challenges, and explore personalised ways to integrate insights into daily life. This session provides a supportive space for continued exploration and growth.

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What Our Learners Say

  • Engaging and Interactive Teaching

    "Kay is an engaging lecturer who makes sessions interactive and thought-provoking. Her teaching encourages deep thinking and discussion, making learning enjoyable and effective." 

  • Clear and Relevant Content 

    "The lecture content was clear, engaging, interesting, and highly relevant to psychotherapy. The structured approach, along with the well-planned delivery, effectively helped deepen my understanding of core concepts."

  • Supportive Learning Environment

     "Kay creates a safe and supportive space where everyone feels comfortable sharing their thoughts without judgement. This atmosphere made the learning experience even more valuable." 

  • Insightful and Practical Seminars 

    "The seminars were well-structured, diverse, and thoroughly engaging. They provided great opportunities to interact, share insights, and apply knowledge in a practical and enriching way." 

  • Impactful and Thought-Provoking Module 

    "This module has been my favourite—well thought out and an excellent starting point for counselling. The reflective work has significantly impacted my self-awareness, and I’m grateful for this experience." 

  • Outstanding Lecturer 

    "Kay is an amazing lecturer—calm, patient, and incredibly knowledgeable. She explains complex topics in a clear and accessible manner, always encourages thoughtful discussions, and nurtures a supportive learning environment."

  • Teaching Style and Content

    “Kay is an excellent and approachable lecturer who fosters discussion and delivers engaging teaching. She is always willing to make time for students and offer support whenever needed. The module was interesting and enjoyable.”

  • Applying Theory to Practice

    “Putting what we learned in lectures into practice during seminars deepened my understanding. Hands-on activities made the content more meaningful and easier to grasp, especially when thinking about what it’s like to work as a therapist.”

  • Supportive Teaching

    “Kay is an engaging lecturer who creates a welcoming atmosphere where I feel comfortable contributing and asking questions. Her interactive style encourages discussion and helps me stay involved in the learning.”

  • Interactive Learning

    “I enjoyed the module structure. Seminars on the same day as lectures let me immediately apply what I’d learned. It didn’t feel like a typical class – more like a group discussion or brainstorming session, making learning more enjoyable and effective.”

  • A Positive and Enjoyable Experience

    “Overall, I loved this module. It was fun, engaging, and full of valuable learning. I’m really grateful for the way it was taught and for the supportive environment created by Kay and the teaching team.”

  • Ongoing Support and Accessibility

    “I always felt supported. If we ran out of time in class, Kay encouraged us to reach out by email or speak with her afterwards. This made a big difference to my confidence and motivation.”

FAQs

  • The self-relationship training programme is an online course designed to help individuals build a healthier connection with themselves. It focuses on improving self-awareness, self-compassion, and self-respect, enhancing overall well-being and the quality of relationships with one’s self and others.

  • This programme is ideal for individuals who want to:

    • Enhance self-awareness and self-esteem.

    • Cultivate emotional resilience and self-regulation.

    • Develop more positive relationships with themselves and others.

    • Overcome self-doubt, negative self-talk, self-sabotaging behaviours, or perfectionism.

  • The programme includes eight comprehensive modules covering:

    • The Self-Relationship - What It Is & Why It Matters.

    • Cultivating Self-Awareness - Understanding Self-Process Dynamics.

    • Negative Treatment of Self - The Cycle of Thoughts, Behaviours & Emotions.

    • The Extremes of Self-Attack.

    • Navigating Hostile Control & Self-Monitoring. 

    • Uncovering Hostile Self-Neglect.

    • Distancing Through Hostile Freedom or Separation from Others.

    • Integrating Self-Affiliation & Self-Acceptance.

  • The course is designed for self-paced learning, allowing participants to complete it at their convenience. Each module typically requires 2–4 hours to complete.

  • Yes, the programme includes interactive activities, such as guided exercises, self-assessment tools, and reflective journaling tasks. Optional online support sessions are available upon completion of the programme for tailored guidance.

  • Unlike therapy, which focuses on addressing past trauma or mental health issues, this programme is centred on personal growth, skill-building, and enhancing self-awareness. It is not intended to replace professional therapy but can complement it.

  • Participants may experience:

    • Greater self-awareness, self-acceptance, and confidence.

    • Enhanced emotional resilience and clearer decision-making.

    • Insight into thought, emotion, and behaviour patterns.

    • Stronger communication skills and healthier boundaries.

    • More authentic, fulfilling relationships.

    • A compassionate, supportive inner dialogue.

    • Better self-care and alignment with personal values.

    • Improved overall wellbeing and a deeper sense of fulfilment.

    • Complete Self-Relationship Training Programme: £495, including all eight modules, a comprehensive workbook, and practical exercises to guide your personal growth.

    • Optional Individual Online Support Session: Available after completing the programme for £150, this personalised session provides tailored guidance to help you effectively integrate your learning into daily life.

  • Yes, completing all eight modules is recommended to achieve the best results. However, optional online support sessions can help refine and apply the learning to your specific circumstances.

  • No, the course is self-paced, allowing you to progress through the modules at a speed that suits you.

  • No formal prerequisites are required. All you need is a willingness to engage with the material and reflect on your self-relationship and personal growth journey.

    Important notice: This programme is designed to support personal development and self-awareness, but it is not a substitute for professional mental health care. If you are currently experiencing significant mental health challenges, distress, or a mental health crisis, we strongly encourage you to seek support from a qualified professional before or alongside participating in the programme. Taking proactive steps to care for your mental health is a vital part of supporting your overall wellbeing.

  • Yes, participants receive:

    • Full access to online course content, including engaging videos and practical exercises.

    • A comprehensive workbook with reflective prompts and exercises to support learning.

    • A curated list of recommended readings for deeper exploration and continued growth.

  • While the course is self-paced, you can take advantage of free online group support sessions during the training. Additionally, optional individual support sessions are available after completing the programme for an additional fee. These sessions offer personalised guidance to help you effectively integrate what you've learned into your daily life.

    Please note that while our group and individual support sessions are designed to enrich your learning and assist with integrating it into your daily life, they are not a replacement for professional mental health care. Seeking mental health support when needed is an important and empowering step toward proactive self-care.

  • If you find yourself experiencing distress, trauma, or other challenging emotions while engaging with the programme, it’s important to prioritise your well-being. Here are some steps you can take:

    • Contact Your GP: If you feel overwhelmed or require guidance, contact your GP for support and advice. They can assess your needs and recommend appropriate mental health services.

    • Consider Psychotherapy: If additional support is needed, reaching out to a qualified psychotherapist can provide a safe and structured space to explore and manage your experiences. Therapy can complement the programme by offering personalised help tailored to your needs.

    • Emergency or Crisis Support: If you are in immediate danger or require urgent support, do not hesitate to reach out to one of the following UK crisis services:

      • Samaritans: Call 116 123 (free, available 24/7) or email jo@samaritans.org

      • Crisis Text Line: Text "SHOUT" to 85258 for free, confidential support available 24/7.

      • NHS Mental Health Helpline: Call 111 for assistance if you're not sure where to turn.

      • Mind: Call 0300 123 3393 or text 86463 for mental health support and information.

      • In an emergency, always dial 999 or go to your nearest A&E.

    The programme is designed to support your self-growth, but it is not a substitute for professional mental health care. Seeking help when needed is a proactive and empowering step in your self-care journey.

  • To enrol, simply complete the consultation form to request further details about the registration process. You will then receive the Onboarding Questionnaire and payment options. Once these are completed and submitted, you will be granted access to the programme’s website.